Firstly, please don’t be tricked by the flashy title. I’m not inspiring women to play dumb, be in a ‘housewife’ role, or be helpless and have no opinions. Being submissive to a man is not about that in any way. I’m also not encouraging women to be submissive every time – being submissive is just another role than a woman can take up every now and then in her affair.
The real prospective of talking for all the options when you decide to be sub, it is just because it can bring more desire, passion and life to a relationship, if it’s accepted by a man with love and respect, because the most important thing a man need to remember in this occasion is the respect he needs to show to his woman.
Being submissive is not something that you do with a man that may be violent, both physically and mentally. It is just another part of you that you might want to express occasionally.
Being submissive – whether in a joking or serious way can awaken the most macho yet tender character in a man. Submission is almost never about admitting you’re incorrect, unable or weaker than a man. Being submissive just lets for a man to feel more like a man around you, and – as a result, have that extra bit of passion. This can also apply in your sex life like london submissive Valerie August says: “And though I love to drop to my knees and serve, I have never been shy or submissive socially”.
And, part of being in touch with your femininity is feeling all the different parts of yourself that you can feel in your body – and how to ‘go there’ when you want to. Submission is a part of learning to turn out to be more feminine as well. So, the question of how to be submissive leads me to bringing up some things that you will need to realize and therefore be able to be submissive at times. The ‘how’ will come to you through accepting of the reason behind it. Our society has fortified women to keep their guard up, wear masks instead of being comfortable in their feminine core/essence, be ‘right’ all the time, and be like steel in the face of battle.
I’ve mentioned it before and I’ll mention it again – that a man really wishes his woman to be open to him, and to let him in (emotionally, mentally, sexually, spiritually). The problem with the way we’re educated at school, is that it’s switched a lot of women in to these extremely dominating creatures that completely undermine the men around them. The problem with this is that, in the face of struggle in a relationship, women use these steel masks to cover up the natural parts of themselves that would come out when in moments of connectedness with a man.
Women can feel the MOST vulnerable.
As a result, they have to use masks more than ever, to live in a world that doesn’t principle sensitivity – and that’s sensitivity to how people are treating us, how others feel, how we feel and honest feedback.
Our society seems to value being socially suitable. There’s nothing wrong with that – until we’ve practiced it so long that we bring the same need to be ‘acceptable’ and fake in our intimate affairs. In the face of conflict, a woman can choose to open up to her man and remove the mask. Decisions shape your future, and it’s as simple as making a choice, and focusing on the positives of doing this rather than the comfort of doing things the same way you always have.
Try to let him take the lead – try to trust him even when it feels ignorant. The truth is, in general, men are built as expected stronger than women. And, they function inversely to women mentally too. Deep down, all women have vulnerabilities and deep fears and feelings of uncertainty, especially in the face of viciousness.
The trends in our society have also lead women to turn into less trusting of men; one feminist even claiming that ‘all men are rapists’. But, every day there are men being brave and standing up for what is right, and protective and taking care of people. Being submissive is also about trusting your man enough to let him show you the way sometimes.
And, asking him for help. Or asking him for his estimation, or asking him for solutions. A simple man who loves the fact that he is stronger than a woman, is going to be totally happy and satisfied if he is asked to do something a woman simply can’t. It makes him feel needed, and useful. Not to mention manly. So, you should ask him for help even with the tiniest things like bringing the shopping bags from the car in the house, opening a jar, carrying something heavy, undoing a knot, changing a lamp. Show him trust where you know it is deserved, and do it without any further question.
The masculine energy wants to be absolutely trusted. If you doubt your man all the time, it feels painful. He wants to have good direction to add to your life – to be trustworthy to you, but if there’s a cycle of you’re not being willing to believe in him, it makes it hard for him to become more trustworthy, as mistrust is possibly stripping him of hope. Have you seen men with their little girls/daughters? They don’t want to let anything hurt their little girl! The same goes with their wife or girlfriend; if only she could show a little purity and submission like a child might – looking up to him as the leader. So, trust your man and let him feel like the king. And believe me; if he feels that way, then you are eventually going to live a life as a real queen.